Thursday, July 31, 2025
Gaana-Gandharvan (Celestial Musician) turns 81
Dasettan has won a record eight national awards and
been honoured with all the three Padma awards by the Government of India... the
Padmashri, the Padmabhushan and the Padmavibhushan.
Bappi da is dead ... Long live Bappi da!
A Master of all Arts
Fathers' Day Musings ... from a Father
This fathers' day, rather than extol the virtues of fathers the world over, laud their sacrifices, and glorify how they mentor and guide their kids (torture them - from the perspective of those at the receiving end!), I decided to use the reverse swing and ruminate on what kids teach their fathers. It's expedient and logical, since an old ball like me (at 55 years), doesn't swing as well as a new one does - but then, the new ball can't reverse swing either.
So, what do fathers learn from their kids: here's my take, on a couple of such learnings ...
1. Time Value of Money. No B School education or Financial Management text books are gonna teach you this concept, the way the kids teach you. As a kid from a previous generation, one's idea of what is expensive, is determined by the value of currency three decades back. So, shelling out five grand for a movie at the premium PVR in a mall, is a king's ransom for you; for your kids, it's chicken-feed.
2. The Bottomless Tummy. While still at the movies, during the bio-break, you scrounge by opting for the smallest pack of the plebian, plain, salted popcorn (low on butter, lower on salt, lest you should enrage your hypertension and your doctor!). You also stick to the smallest glass of diet coke to go with (lest you should enrage your blood sugar and your doctor!). But, when the delivery boy deposits the snacks order of your kids, you realise, there's enough and more on that gargantuan tray, to feed an entire army of semi-starved recruits (not the Agniveers, but their predecessors). From caramelled popcorn to nachos and dips, from pizzas and pastas to Pepsis and popsicles, it’s a veritable feast that would satiate your need and greed, for at least a fortnight. Then you see all of it vapourise in a trice - vanishing into the ravines of your youngsters' tummies. And, once they step out of the movie, their eyes are scouting the nearest fine dining experience, that exotic set-up with exorbitant rates, that hastens the exodus of cash from your wallet (or from your credit card).
3. Time Value of Time. Alvin Toffler had warned me of this, long years back, through his classic tome on futurology, “Future Shock”. Simply put, when a 50-year-old dad asks his 15-year-old son to wait for five years for his bike, for the dad, it's just 10 percent of his life; for the kid, it's one-third of his lifetime. This logic has however been turned on its head. While I hold on to my gadgets (smartphones, tablets, laptops), to as long as I can (which can stretch anything from 4-5 years), to squeeze out the last ounce of juice from its chips, drives and memories, my kids badger me for next-gen gizmos, every six months, or even earlier (depending on the OEMs definition of generation - I often wonder, how can six months define a generation). Suffice to say that, what's one generation for me - 5 years - is just 6 months for my kids.
Happy Fathers' Day to all my ilk, who share my pangs and pains, and thrills and frills of fatherhood.